Family Culture is made up of the unwritten rules. The things that the [insert last name] do. It’s what relationships look like And what this family does when no one else is watching.

We spend so much time planning for the wedding, college, vacation, first day of school… that sometimes we overlook the day-to-day. The tiny moments, interactions, patterns, and habits that are actually shaping our children's world view. The day-to-day is where you will find the family culture.

Our traditions, the days we value, the activities we participate in, who cleans, who cooks, how we talk about our neighbors, how we look at strangers. The affection we show and the way we resolve conflicts. All of these little things are part of the way our children see the world.

Strong families don’t happen by accident. It’s intentional.

Child Development, The Rising Lava Parenting PodcastLauren PaceJuly 13, 2020Comment

Advocate for Your Child: Assessment to Intervention

I'm so proud to be alive at this time. We're slowly changing this perspective in our country. We're recognizing that everyone comes to the table with differences and these differences can not only be acknowledged that they can be celebrated and often times these differences don't really contribute to us being different from the other human beings at the table or the other than the preschoolers at the snack table. It's hard for us as a country and as a culture to shift that perspective, but I think it's happening.

Child Development, The Rising Lava Parenting PodcastLauren PaceJuly 6, 2020speech, advocateComment

ADVOCATE for Person-Centered Care with Dr. Brittan Barker

Dr. Brittan Barker has professional and personal experience with person-centered care and ADVOCATING for your child who needs extra support. Dr. Barker talks about how to advocate for your child, the process from assessment to intervention, and the REALNESS of how exhausting it can be.

Child Development, The Rising Lava Parenting PodcastLauren PaceJuly 3, 2020speechComment

Safe Place instead of Time-Outs

The safe place may look similar to a time-out, but it feels so much different.

With time-outs, you may say, “do you need a time-out,” and force them in the room for a set amount of time.

With the safe place perspective, you may say, “do you need help calming down?” with the intention of using the safe space as a tool to help them calm down.

Instead of saying “I'm going to put you on timeout,” you may say, “I'm sorry. This is hard. Let's take a break."

So your child takes a break, they calm down their body and then return back to what they were doing. Instead this time, they have regulated their emotions and you're able to teach them in a green arrow moment. Instead of a time-out with the goal to wallow in your feelings, try the safe space where the goal is to develop emotional self-regulation.

How Sensory Affects Behavior with Wendy Bertagnole

Today, we have an amazing guest and a friend that I met on the Instagram space, Wendy Bertagnole. I just love what she teaches what she stands for. She is a lot like me with — all behaviors communication, and we can't just ignore the junk and hope it goes away. We have to understand what our child's communicating and then support with support them with the new skills.

I’m going to share some of the super valuable things she shared with me in our interview. But if you want the full effect, listen to the podcast! “Sensory is this thing that I think everybody has a misinterpretation of a lot of people here sensory and they're like, oh, yeah our five senses. They think oh, yeah that's for kids with autism or that's for kids with sensory processing disorder or whatever. But really what most people don't know is that sensory affects all of us all the time."

Child Development, The Rising Lava Parenting PodcastLauren PaceJune 22, 2020Comment

Teach Sharing (and all things) PROACTIVELY!

A lot of times as parents -- we are saying the right things! But we are saying them at the wrong time. It's not about what you're doing. It's about WHEN you're doing it. In the "green arrow" moments, we teach. In the "yellow arrow" moment, we prompt. And in the red, sometimes we prompt, mostly we STAY SAFE. I'm going to show you what this looks like with the situation with Charlie and his best friend in terms of SHARING.

Child Development, The Rising Lava Parenting PodcastLauren PaceJune 15, 2020Comment